Good, Bad, & Ugly Gossip
What are the other sides of each story in your life?
What are the other sides of each story other people tell you?
Paula Kramer has been researching gossip since 1988. The definitions below are based on more than half a century of research by both male and female researchers.
Gossip is talk and writing about people
— both other people and ourselves —
in family, social, workplace, and public settings.
Men gossip just as much or more than women. They just call it things like “shop talk” or “shooting the breeze”.
Opening doors in relationships is successful when people with closed or slammed doors are both sincere and open-minded. Insincere and close-minded people will not open their doors to your good gossip efforts. Insincerity and closed-mindedness are two clues that you should limit or walk away from a relationship.
Good Gossip Opens Doors In Relationships
- ignores or breaks stereotypes
- creates connections between individuals and groups
- increases understanding
- encourages growth
- builds cooperation
- rights or prevents wrongs by emphasizing connections and promoting understanding
- can lead to unimagined benefits
Bad Gossip Closes Doors In Relationships
- uses stereotypes
- creates distance between individuals and groups
- erects barriers to understanding
- limits growth
- encourages rivalries
- creates wrongs by justifying distance and barriers
- can lead to betrayal and sabotage
Ugly Gossip Slams Doors In Relationships
- uses stereotypes
- hurts, humiliates, and blames individuals and groups
- prevents growth
- destroys relationships
- hides the hurting, humiliating, and blaming intentions of ugly gossip with accusations that ugly gossip victims have been hostile and have committed offenses
- can lead to revenge, backfires, even murder
The good, bad, and ugly gossip definitions are available as a positive peer pressure poster.
© Paula M. Kramer, 2015
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Updated March 26, 2017