Gossip Power: The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly

What are the other sides of each story in your life?
What are the other sides of each story other people tell you?

Paula Kramer has been researching gossip since 1988. Her definition of gossip is based on more than half a century of research by both male and female researchers.

Gossip is talk and writing about people
— both other people and ourselves —
in family, social, workplace, and public settings.

Men gossip just as much or more than women. They just call it things like “shop talk” or “shooting the breeze”.

The power of gossip is in the relationships it creates. In fact, gossip was a originally a relationship. Read about the first gossip (godsibb) relationship and how it evolved over centuries into a kind of talk. Relationships are still part of gossip as “gossip cells”. Read about gossip, why two researchers identified old men as the biggest gossips., and start using good gossip to bring yourself unimagined benefits.

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4 pages

This download is the preparatory reading for Paula Kramer’s workshop/seminar, The Power of Workplace Gossip: Good, Bad, & Ugly.

Each good gossip statement is a tiny triumph. Tiny triumphs add up to satisfying successes. Fight failure and spark success by purposefully using good gossip whenever possible. This might require creativity at times, but failure breeds failure and success breeds success. So breed success for yourself with the tiny triumphs of good gossip statements.

 

Good Gossip Opens Doors In Relationships

 

Bad Gossip Closes Doors In Relationships

 

Ugly Gossip Slams Doors In Relationships

 

Strategies for opening doors in relationships require sincerity and open-mindedness. People opening doors have to be sincere. People with closed or slammed doors have to be open-minded. Insincere and close-minded people will seldom open their doors to your good gossip efforts, even sincere efforts. Insincerity and closed-mindedness are two clues that you should limit or walk away from a relationship when possible. If not possible, keep taking open door actions so that other people see your respectful behavior. Your open door actions will invite other people to use good gossip about you. Open door actions also invite successes you didn’t know were possible.

It is sometimes possible to open a slammed door, but it will take time and effort. See People Success Example #5. Paula Kramer opened a slammed door and reaped an unexpected reward.

All the information on gossip applies to both personal and professional relationships.

 

© Paula M. Kramer, 2015
All rights reserved.
Updated August 4, 2018