Working With Others & Satisfying Others
You can work with others and satisfy others in personal relationships, in small groups, in organizations, and within nations. See Paths To Spectacular Success for examples of how individuals, groups, and organizations have created a variety of paths to spectacular success. Read through the examples to look for the type of path you could create to reach spectacular success.
For national successes, read The Fix: How Nations Survive and Thrive in a World in Decline by Jonathan Tepperman. Tepperman provides evidence that nations survive and thrive when everyone gets something but no one gets everything.
Do more to work with others and satisfy others in your personal relationships, then expand your successes from there.
Working With Others
Recognize that your success is connected to their success.
Identify what you have in common.
Ask what their words and actions mean to them.
Take action based on their meanings for their words and actions.
Instead of saying, “Get over it!” ask, “What do you need to be able to…?”
Explain who, what, when, where, how, and why.
Give positive feedback that begins with, “I like this and…”, then give a suggestion that builds on “this”. *
Create positive identities by acknowledging words, actions, and accomplishments.
Listen to every side of the story.
Acknowledge how your words and actions create difficulties for them.
Treat their difficulties as seriously as they do, but set limits on listening to complaints and ask what steps they will take to create tiny triumphs.
Provide meaningful choices in situations that directly affect them.
Provide opportunities for them to create tiny triumphs.
Spotlight their accomplishments from tiny triumphs to spectacular successes.
Satisfy DISC behavior style needs and Spranger guiding value passions.
Live the Golden Rule
Do unto others as you would have others do unto you
by satisfying their needs as they see them. **
21 religions, 5 philosophies, and 2 moral/ethical systems
include the Golden Rule
Working with others and satisfying others gives them reasons to work with and satisfy you. Intentionally creating success for others gives them opportunities to create unforeseen success for you. Spectacular success is the unforeseen success other people intentionally create for you because you intentionally create success for them.
* This technique is “plussing”.
Little Bets: How Breakthrough Ideas Emerge from Small Discoveries
New York: Free Press, 2011
“The Genius of Play” chapter
** Healthy needs that do not abuse someone else
© Paula M. Kramer, 2010
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Last updated January 4, 2019