Working With Others & Satisfying Others

Working With Others & Satisfying Others
Sparks Spectacular Success


Working With Others

Recognize that your success is connected to their success.

Identify what you have in common.

Ask what their words and actions mean to them.

Take action based on their meanings for their words and actions.

Instead of saying, “Get over it!” ask, “What do you need to be able to…?”

Explain who, what, when, where, how, and why.

Give positive feedback that begins with, “I like this and…”, then give a suggestion that builds on “this”. *


Satisfying Others

Create positive identities by acknowledging words, actions, and accomplishments.

Listen to every side of the story.

Acknowledge how your words and actions create difficulties for them.

Treat their difficulties as seriously as they do, but set limits on listening to complaints and ask what steps they will take to create tiny triumphs.

Provide meaningful choices in situations that directly affect them.

Provide opportunities for them to create tiny triumphs.

Spotlight their accomplishments from tiny triumphs to spectacular successes.

Satisfy DISC behavior style needs and Spranger guiding value passions.


Live the Golden Rule

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you
by satisfying their needs as they see them. **

21 religions, 5 philosophies, and 2 moral/ethical systems
include the Golden Rule



Working with others and satisfying others gives them reasons to work with and satisfy you. Intentionally creating success for others gives them opportunities to create unforeseen success for you. Spectacular success is the unforeseen success other people intentionally create for you because you intentionally create success for them.


* This technique is “plussing”.
Little Bets: How Breakthrough Ideas Emerge from Small Discoveries
Peter Sims
New York: Free Press, 2011
“The Genius of Play” chapter

** Healthy needs that do not abuse someone else


© Paula M. Kramer, 2010
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Last updated July 25, 2015