Leading For Change Through Choices

If you want to create any kind of successful change, pay attention to the leadership mistakes on both sides of the abortion issue in the United States. I’ve been paying attention to those mistakes for decades.

Since about 1990, I’ve known that Roe v Wade was likely to be overturned. One statement from Eleanor Smeal was all it took. It proved that Smeal is the opposite of a grassroots organizer.

Pro-life leaders are much more effective than pro-choice leaders. You can read the details in several blog posts I wrote comparing the two sides. The titles below are in the approximate order I wrote them.

My eye-opening about the reason for pro-choice leader ineffectiveness came during a graduate school seminar. Our professor told us to find a dissertation that interested us and present it to the class. The dissertation I chose was:

In-House Rhetoric of Pro-Life and Pro-Choice Special Interest Groups in Minnesota: Motivation and Alienation
Dissertation, University of Minnesota, 1982
Marsha Vanderford Doyle, Ph.D.
(Now Marsha Vanderford)

If you want to create a successful movement of any sort, pay attention to the differences between pro-life and pro-choices strategies. Although the pro-life side seems to have currently won, their victory will not last. This issue will go back and forth because both sides deny choice.

Pro-life leaders give women the freedom to choose public actions, but deny women the freedom to choose private actions.

Pro-choice leaders give women the freedom to choose private actions, but deny women the freedom to choose public actions.

You will understand just by reading a few of my blog posts.

Since pro-life and pro-choice leaders are on opposite ends of a seesaw, craft a successful movement of any kind by getting off the seesaw. Give anyone who believes in your movement the freedom to choose both public and private actions.

Note that I criticize feminist leaders, not women who believe in and support feminism. I also respect the pro-choice supporters who are endlessly creative about promoting their beliefs. They are examples of ordinary people being the best and the brightest.

The Pro-Child Choice

I am pro-child. My mother tried to kill me twice. I know from horrific experience that babies deserve parents who want them. The pro-life side could reduce abortions by providing everything necessary for private choices to prevent unwanted pregnancies. No pregnancy makes abortion impossible.

Preventing unwanted pregnancies would also save lives by reducing the numbers of mass shooting victims and serial killer victims. Children who endure horrific childhoods are more likely than other children to grow up to become mass shooters and serial killers. See the statistics below.

Adoption has its own horror stories and women who surrender their babies face negative stereotypes. Social service agencies have trouble finding enough foster parents for unwanted children. The number of wanted children exceeds the available number of parents who could adopt.

Perhaps the two political sides could come together for the sake of babies.

If I’d had choice as a fetus, I would have chosen for my mother to abort me.

I would not have chosen to endure the horrors of my childhood just to be alive.

My kind of childhood creates never ending pain. One aftermath of my childhood is that I have no contact with any family member from either side. To protect herself from what I might someday say about her, my mother stereotyped me negatively. All but one relative chose to ignore what I said and discount what I did, just as my mother taught them to. Surviving emotionally meant walking away.

My father died before I was capable of acknowledging my murder memories. He loved me, but my mother emotionally abused him as well.

My mother’s sister was the only family member to remain in contact with me when I walked away from my mother. Aunt Terry died in 2003.

Babies deserve parents who want them.

 

Feminist Leaders Blog Posts

“If Feminist Leaders Want Equality, Why Do They Create Inequality?”

“A Dedicated Network Of Glory Addicts”

“The Arrogance Of Feminist Leaders”

This blog post includes the Eleanor Smeal statement, a need-to-be-in-control statement that erases opportunities for creative actions.

Three paragraphs later is a statement that creates opportunities for creative action, credited to President Teddy Roosevelt. Roosevelt credits the statement to Squire Bill Widener.

When leaders give people the freedom to make their own choices, people are free to make the choices that satisfy their behavior style needs and guiding value passions. Being able to satisfy their own needs and passions gives people multiple reasons to continue doing the work of creating change.

Pro-life leaders gave pro-life supporters the freedom to satisfy their needs and passions, fueling the overturn of Roe v. Wade. Pro-life leaders are still on the seesaw because they deny private choices, however, so they will eventually go down again.

“Maybe You Can Get An Answer…”

“Why Do Feminist Leaders Think You Can’t Remember Where You Are On The Internet?”

“When Will Feminist Leaders Do What They Expect Male Politicians To Do?“

“What Do Feminist Leaders Have In Common With Outlaw Bikers, Hierarchical Leaders, Donald Rumsfeld, & The Old Guard Of The Catholic Church?”

“Feminist Leaders, Unsophisticated Women, & The Least Effective Way To Communicate With Politicians”

“NOW President Terry O’Neill Is “…sure you’re heard by now…”

“Feminist Leader Ineffectiveness: Proof In Numbers”

“Memo To Feminist Leaders: Actions Speak Louder Than Words”

“Pro-Life Strategies Leave Pro-Choice Strategies In The Dust”

“Victims On The Left, Victims On The Right”

“Should You Believe The National Organization For Women (NOW)? NOW Chapters”

“Feminist Leader Trashes Other Feminist Leaders”

 

Better Planet Business Blog Post

“Who Deserves Your Better Planet Money?”

 

Statistics

U.S. Adoption

“Around 140,000 children are adopted by American families each year.”

U.S. Foster Care

“On any given day, there are nearly 424,000 children in foster care in the United States.”

U.S. Abused & Neglected Children

“Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. It’s a widespread war against our children that we have the power to stop, and understanding the issue is the first step. Just how bad is the issue of child abuse in the United States?

Every year, more than 4 million referrals are made to child protection agencies involving more than 4.3 million children (a referral can include multiple children).

The United States has one of the worst records among industrialized nations – losing on average 5 children every day to child abuse and neglect.

In 2019 alone, state agencies found over 656,000 victims of child maltreatment, but that only tells part of the story.

This would pack 10 modern football stadiums.”

U.S. Mass Shooters Statistics

“The vast majority of shooters experienced early childhood trauma and exposure to violence at a young age. The nature of their exposure included parental suicide, physical or sexual abuse, neglect, domestic violence, and/or severe bullying. The trauma was often a precursor to mental health concerns, including depression, anxiety, thought disorders or suicidality.”

Serial Killer Statistics

“Abuse of all types excluding neglect was significantly higher in the serial killer population. For serial killers, the prevalence of physical abuse was 36%; sexual abuse was 26%; and psychological abuse was 50%. Neglect was equally prevalent in the serial killer (18%) and societal norm populations.”

“The Incidence of Child Abuse in Serial Killers“
Heather Mitchell and Michael G. Aamodt, Radford University
Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology
2005, Volume 20, Number 1

 

© Paula M. Kramer, 2022
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Update August 1, 2022.